What to do if you're being stalked
1. Learn About Stalking and Your Rights in NY State
2. If You are in Immediate Danger, Get to a Safe Place
- Do not go home or to your dorm alone if you think you are being followed. Learn about the locations of nearby stores, emergency departments and other publicly visible areas, including public safety.
- Develop a safety plan for what to do if you are being stalked, including where you will stay and what you will need to do if your stalker shows up at your home, your class or your job. Vary your routine if at all possible.
- Alert friends, roommates, classmates, family and other trustworthy people in your life so that the stalker cannot elicit information from them. If your stalker contacts you, do not respond.
- Change passwords often for cell phones, email accounts, and social networking sites; do not post your location on social networking sites and make your profiles private.
- Trust your instincts and take threats seriously!
3. Call for Assistance
- Call 911 or Columbia Public Safety for immediate police protection and assistance OR:
- Call a professional Survivor Advocate or Peer Advocate from the Sexual Violence Response & Rape Crisis/Anti-Violence Support Center, (212) 854-HELP (available 24/7/365)
- Call a local stalking resource: (866) 689-HELP (4357)
4. Gather and Preserve Evidence of the Stalking
- Use this stalking log at Victims of Crime and record the date, the time, and a description of each event that happened.
- Be sure to save anything the stalker sends you, including packages and letters, as well as electronic documentation, such as emails, social media messages and text messages.
- Take photographs of any property your stalker has damaged.
5. Consider Talking with a Counselor
Counseling is often helpful for survivors because it provides a safe place to talk about your experience and your feelings.
- Counseling and Psychological Services (Morningside campus students)
- Center for Student Wellness(CUMC students)
- Rosemary Furman Counseling Center (Barnard students)
- Reporting the crime to law enforcement and or/seeking an Order of Protection, where applicable
- Filing a complaint with the University if the stalker is another student
Last updated November 17, 2014