What to do if you're experiencing intimate partner violence
1. Learn About Abusive Relationships
- Intimate Partner or Relationship Violence occurs in many forms and it exists on a spectrum. Abuse can be physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, financial and academic, and is usually a combination of several of these factors.
- Find out if you might be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship at The National Domestic Violence Hotline.
- Trust your instincts! If something feels wrong, it probably is.
2. Create a Safety Plan
- A safety plan includes personalized, concrete steps you can take to reduce the possibility of being harmed, whether physically or emotionally, by an abusive partner.
- You should always have access to your safety plan. If you cannot keep it, you can memorize the most important details on it. You can also give a copy to someone you trust.
- Consult this safety plan for college students.
3. Get to a Safe Place if You are in Immediate Danger
- After experiencing a traumatizing event such as intimate partner violence, it can be important to find a place where you feel comfortable and safe from harm. This location could be:
- friend’s room
- local hospital
- police station
4. Call for Assistance
- Call 911 or Public Safety for immediate police protection and assistance OR:
- Call a professional Survivor Advocate or Peer Advocate from the Sexual Violence Response & Rape Crisis/Anti-Violence Support Center, (212) 854-HELP (available 24/7/365)
- Safe Horizon’s Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673)
5. Seek Medical Attention, if Necessary
To check for injuries; you may have injuries that you can't see or feel. Also, take pictures of any visible injuries.
- Medical Services (Columbia University, Morningside Heights)
- Student Health Service (Columbia University Medical Center)
- Barnard Primary Care Health Service (Barnard College)
- St. Luke’s Hospital Emergency Department (212) 523-3330, 114th & Amsterdam
- Roosevelt Hospital Emergency Department (212) 523-6800, 59th & 10th Ave.
- Columbia Presbyterian Medical Center: Domestic and Other Violence Emergencies (DOVE) (212) 305-9060, 168th & Broadway
6. Consider Talking with a Counselor
Counseling is often helpful for survivors because it provides a safe place to talk about your experience and your feelings.
- Counseling and Psychological Services (Morningside campus students)
- Center for Student Wellness (CUMC students)
- Rosemary Furman Counseling Center (Barnard students)
- Reporting the crime to law enforcement and or/seeking an Order of Protection
- Filing a complaint with the University if your abusive partner is another student
- Remembering it’s not your fault